Do you struggle with words when a friend has a miscarriage, a parent die, loses a pet, or just something tragic happening in their lives? You know, we all do, but it is something that definitely needs to be acknowledged.
It literally sucks, to see a friend or family member going through a loss of some kind. You want to do something but just don’t know what to do or say. Don’t feel like you are bringing up a sensitive subject if you say something as it is always going to be a teary topic for the person feeling the loss. It’s not like you will be reminding them of it. It is always in the back of their mind.
- So think about sending them a card. If you can’t come up with your own words there are plenty of sympathy cards with good sentiments already on them.
- It’s OK to send them a text and let them know you are thinking of them. But don’t be disappointed if they don’t respond.
- Food is always good.
- Sometimes just keeping in touch helps. Ask if they want to talk about it. Ask if you can just come and be with them.
- Let them know you are praying for them. And then do pray for them.
Take A Hike:
It is important to do something even though you feel a bit awkward. Depending on how close you are to the person, think about saying or doing one of the above ideas. Or maybe you have another idea. You won’t regret it down the road. It is absolutely doing the right thing to acknowledge someone else’s loss, to do something, to say something.
Know that everyone grieves differently. So let your friends feel what they need to. Let them know you are there for them. There is a hole in their lives and as a friend you can help by being there. #empathy
Several years ago I had a cousin my age who died unexpectedly in an accident. It literally took my breath away and it was just a cousin. I couldn’t imagine what his wife and family were feeling. I was so shook up that it took me 3 months to acknowledge the loss to his family. But I did acknowledge it. I’m not sure if there is a window of time to acknowledge someone’s loss but I would say within the first 6 months.
And remember the importance of Visiting OLD Friends!