It’s easy to blame others. You can spend your whole life blaming someone else. But your success and failure are entirely your responsibility. Own it!
“When you think everything is someone else’s fault, you will suffer a lot. When you realize that everything springs only from yourself, you will learn both peace and joy.” Dalai Lama
Ever notice how some people always blame others for their shortcomings?Didn’t get the job. That stupid HR lady! She didn’t like you the moment you stepped into her office. Flunked your last English test. That dang teacher was picking on me again! Gained 10 pounds over the Christmas break. Don’t blame the holiday or the bakers.
It’s always easier to blame someone else but what it boils down to is YOU. You didn’t study enough, you ate too much. No one put a fork to your mouth but you.
Well, well, well,….if it isn’t the consequences of my own actions again.
That parking ticket, the deposit you didn’t get back on your last apartment, the blame list can go on and on. Once you accept ownership your whole life will look different. Apologize or forgive when you have failed. It is amazing how others will respect and appreciate your honesty. Instead of calling your landlady a battle axe, ask her what you can do to get your deposit back. Set the timer on your phone so you don’t get a parking ticket. Own your actions.
When you own it, you get to choose the words and actions that are in better alignment with what you really desire. And be sure to give yourself credit for your accomplishments… this is a biggie.
Take a Hike:
The next time something in life doesn’t go your way, STOP, and consider who really is to blame. Apologize if you need to. Change. Be responsible. Look in the mirror if you are still not sure. Because if everywhere you go there is a problem…..guess who is really the problem! And you can change this too.
Do you start your sentences with “you did” or “you always” or “you made me”? Or do you know someone who does? Could be a red alert sign that you or they are a blamer. Don’t play this game. Own your actions.
And do this for yourself to really change up your direction… Forgiveness – Free Yourself in 3 Steps.